I’m in a few mommy facebook groups that are specifically for moms expecting a babies around the same time as I am. Some of the hot questions in those groups are all about baby showers and registries. I don’t know why this is such an issue, but moms are very concerned about what people are going to think about their choices surrounding a baby shower.

They’re asking questions like…

Are you having a shower even if no one is throwing you one?

Is anyone having a shower that this ISN’T their first baby?

Why would anyone have a shower for a second/third baby?

Are you doing a registry? What’s on it? Why are you doing a registry if this is your 3rd kid?

Oh. Em. Gee.

First of all, please just do whatever the F*$% you want. Second of all. You should ALWAYS have a registry. There will probably be things that you need to buy for every child (like bottles, diapers, clothings (maybe not as much) new car seats/travel systems, maybe a crib etc. Registries have so many perks too! Some have free stuff, completion discounts, percentage of cash back towards items you need etc. I know a lot of people also ask how they can help. A registry is a great place to send someone who want to contribute. Regardless of your shower plans, set up a registry!

As for the baby shower…You’ve got options.

• If it’s your first baby, it’s not unlikely you have someone in your life that would love to throw you a shower. Talk to your people and see if anyone is interested!
• If you don’t have anyone to throw you one, host your own! No shame im celebrating a new life with your friends and family!
• Have a “meet the baby” part after the baby is born. Lots of people want to meet your new baby and would love to shower them with gifts.
• If it’s not your first baby, you might not have someone jumping up and down to throw you a party, so again, if you want to do one, host your own, or talk to your people! If you don’t want to ask for gifts or don’t need much, ask people for diapers or other consumable items you’ll need that you don’t already have.
• Make it a potluck and forgo the gifts altogether. Invite your friends, celebrate the new baby, and forget about gifts.
• Have a sprinkle. Let people know exactly what you could use help with but make it clear that they shouldn’t go overboard.

But the point here, is that you should really just do whatever you want to do. This is your life, your baby, your family. You👏do 👏you. Forget about what people think. Ignore what’s taboo and what’s not and do what makes the most sense for you and your family. It breaks my heart to see so many women agonizing over what people will think about their decision. I love this Scary Mommy article that echos my sentiment.

Have the shower or don’t. Create the registry or don’t. But ultimately, whatever you do should be your choice regardless of what people will think of it.

If you are an inhabitant of planet earth, chances are, you’ve heard about the Coronavirus (according to WHO the disease is officially called COVID-19 and the virus is called SARS-CoV-2) but just in case you haven’t heard of it the basic gist is that it’s a novel outbreak of a type of virus called a coronavirus that has traveled across the world since its discovery in late 2019. Here’s a WHO Situation Report from March 7th that explains a bit about how many people this has affected and where the virus has been detected. Sitreps are coming out daily with updates on new recent learnings and affected populations etc.

I decided that this was worthy of writing about today because this outbreak has caused mass hysteria in the media and across the US (and probably the world, but I’ll speak for myself as a US resident). A lot of people are very scared of this virus and as a result have been preparing for the worst. As the weeks pass and the situation seems to worsen and I’ve been reflecting a lot on what I’ve learned from it.

1// My family’s hand washing routine is probably leaving something to be desired

There aren’t a lot of things that a person can do to protect against this virus, but one thing that can help is hand washing. Truth be told, a good hand washing routine isn’t just important for a pandemic…it’s important for the flu season, and for newborns, and for safe food handling, and for…general hygiene.

What we’re doing about it: We’re reading up on the CDC’s handwashing recommendations and we’re implementing them. Forever. Not just in light of the coronavirus, but just to be generally more hygienic people. We’re singing songs at the sink to make sure we wash for long enough, and we’re washing more often.

2// Our disaster preparedness plan is virtually non-existent

Listen, I am not the person buying all the toilet paper, purell, and clorox that money can buy…but I am reviewing what WHO recommends doing to prepare in case we shouldn’t leave our homes, or if there is a need to close public places. Or if there is an earthquake. Or if there’s a freak tornado that rips through our valley. Or if there is a terrible snow storm that has us inside for days. Or if we lose power. Ya’ll…I have nothing.

What we’re doing about it: First I’ll tell you what I’m NOT doing. I’m not running to my nearest wholesale store and buying up random canned goods or toilet paper. I’m also not buying bottled water. But I am reevaluating the state of our pantry, assessing our cold and flu supplies, keeping my car fueled to a half tank or more, I bought a few more non-perishable food items that don’t require fresh foods to make (but I didn’t go overboard!) and I read up on some recommendations specifically for the coronavirus. We’re also just looking at our plan in general and we’re going to make some changes (not today..but soon.)

3// Panicking isn’t going to help anyone

I am not panicking. Even as a pregnant woman who may or may not be in a more vulnerable populations…I’m not scared. But it’s hard to stay that way when the media is painting a very grim picture. I’ve seen several influencers spreading fear and panic. It doesn’t help. It makes people do crazy things like buy dust masks and enough toilet paper to wipes all the butts of the world for a year. It’s only making things worse and causing shortages for people who actually need this stuff.

What we’re doing about it: I’m staying alert and informed. I’m reading WHO and CDC recommendations. I’m consuming content from other sources like Dr. Mike, a doctor on youtube you who is sharing regular updates on the virus as he learns more about the virus. But most importantly, my family is not panicking. We’re also listing to recommendations like I mentioned above, practicing some social distancing, not touching hands as much as possible, and finding peace in the fact that approximately 80% of the people who have contracted the virus have survived.

What have you learned from this whole crazy situation? Are you doing anything you might not have otherwise? I want to hear all about it.

Last weekend Corey and I announced that we’re bringing another tiny person into the world. This time the male type of tiny person.

We found out that I was pregnant in November and ever since we have been so excited to start the next leg of our parenting journey together. I won’t lie, I’m pretty nervous to have a boy. My 2 year old nephew was on rung away from climbing onto the roof this fall…boys freak me out. But I also can’t wait to snuggle the little guy and have my very own little mamma’s boy.

There he is in the ultrasound looking like a cute little teddy bear or something. This was at 10 weeks (I’m due August 6th!)

When we got pregnant with Clara, I wouldn’t say it was under the most ideal of circumstances. To say she was unplanned would be an understatement. Corey and I were still in the dating phase of our relationship and were both quite unsure of what the future held for us. If we’d been Facebook official it probably would have said “It’s Complicated”.

It didn’t mean that we’d love Clara any less, but it took awhile for me to be excited about motherhood. Of course after a few months I found that excitement and really connected with Clara. Before she was born I felt quite ready to be a mom, but that didn’t mean there wasn’t still a lingering cloud of uncertainty.

This time around, things are different. Corey and I are married. We planned to have this baby. I bought a pregnancy test before my missed period because I couldn’t wait to find out, not because I was anxious or scared. I told Corey with a smile on my face I couldn’t contain instead of nervously taking a second test at his house so he knew I wasn’t a nut job who bought a positive pregnancy test on the internet (My idea not his 😅) With Clara I was terrified to tell my parents. I put it off for quiet some time. This time I took a test and told my mom the next day because I couldn’t NOT tell her.

I’m excited to experience a pregnancy that I planned for. And I’m excited to see Clara grow into the best big sister. I’m excited to watch Corey hold his little boy just like he did Clara and try to hide the fact that he’s crying. I can’t wait to watch my little family of three grow into a bigger family of four.

Today is our 1st Anniversary.

Corey and I got engaged in late 2017 and were engaged 13ish months. I was not a great wedding planner. Actually, I’m not sure I planned my wedding at all. (Sorry Mom, Megan, and Alexis 😬) I made a few choices like my dress, my venue, wedding party attire and Corey’s tux , flowers, photographer, officiant, DJ, and some color scheme stuff…I also made my own invitations and save the dates.

But everything else. Literally everything else, I owe to my mom and sisters for pulling together and at the last minute. And they really did it well. Everything came together perfectly, however last minute it was.

I’m not the girl that has been planning my wedding for my whole life, but I did still have something of a picture in my head for how I wanted things to go, and I can’t imagine them going any better.

I wore my grandma’s opal ring (that I couldn’t find the night before the wedding and was frantically tearing the house apart to find…) for my something old, a gold necklace given to Clara as my something borrowed, my sparkly shoes as my something new, and well, something else was blue 😏

My dad walked me down the aisle while my officiant played the guitar and sang “I Can’t Help Falling In Love With You. ” Pretty appropriate seems how Corey and I were something of fools that rushed in.

We wrote our own vows, which I always thought was cheesy, but it wasn’t. I read through mine and cried. Corey read through his and I cried some more. It’s kind of funny, before it was me standing up there getting married, I thought this was the boring part of the wedding, but I was wrong. This was the best part. The part where Corey and I promised to love each other, no matter how crazy we drove each other. It was pretty great.

Once we’d done the damn thing and were happily married, we took some pictures and joined our friends and family for our reception. The food was great (thank God because we hadn’t even done a taste test before we booked) the booze were flowing (we literally still have alcohol left over from the wedding a year later) and the company was great.

Corey and I danced to “Say You Won’t Let Go” by James Arthur. My dad and I got a good laugh and a captive audience as we two stepped to “Red Neck Girl” by the Bellamy Brothers, and Corey and his mom got their groove on to “Bohemian Rhapsody” by Queen. I guess you can say we aren’t exactly typical.

Perhaps the most exciting part of the night was the Flash Mob to “Can’t Stop the Feeling” by Justin Timberlake however some of our guests might argue that the most exciting part was watching the Chiefs/Patriots game throughout the reception. That was cool. Personally, I liked the Flash Mob.

We partied the night away, danced with our little girl, visited with our guests, and exited the venue excited to get home and pack for Hawaii the next day. I wouldn’t be me if I had already been packed and ready to go before the wedding.

All in all, it was a pretty amazing night, but the best part of it all was that at the end of it, I got to say “My husband Corey” and I’ve been saying it ever since.

I love you, Corey. Happy Anniversary. I’m excited to continue living in this life we’re building together. You’re an amazing dad, a great husband, and my forever-partner in life. As I write this, you’re making a late night run to Taco Bell and bringing it to me in bed, so basically, I scored a good one.

One year down, a minimum of 30 to go.

I’m big on fresh starts. I love new notebooks, completely untouched by my messy handwriting and inky pens. I love it when a month starts on a Monday. I even love watching my the fuel needle flip from empty to full after I’ve pumped 12 gallons of gas into the car. And I really love a new year.

I’ve found that New Years can actually be pretty polarizing for people. Apparently a lot of people have big opinions on setting New Year’s resolutions, goals, themes, words-of-the-year, etc. Personally I don’t get it. Mind your business. If you love setting goals and fresh starts, take advantage of this time. If you don’t, then don’t. You don’t have to rain on my parade of hopes and dreams for the new year.

Anyway. Fresh Starts. I love them. I love New Year’s Day. I love January. And I love New Year’s Resolutions. Or bucket lists or words of the year or what the hell ever you do to plan for the year ahead. I’m 👏here 👏 for 👏 it 👏.

I have big plans for 2020. I’ve got goals. I’ve got a word. I’ve got a mindset. I’m ready. This year I’m doing something similar to last year. I’ve picked an overarching theme, in this case a word, that I’m building goals around. This year I chose the word “Present”. I picked it because I’ve recognized that the times where I’m happiest is when I’m fully immersed in what I’m doing. I’m especially happy when I’m not sure where my phone is at and I don’t care. So I’m doubling down on being present and focusing my hopes and my goals on that.

My Goals for 2020

1. Eat dinner at the table.
2. Read.
3. Work on my house projects.
4. Invest more time in relationships with our friends and family.
5. Write more.

I think that this year is going to be a good one, and I’m so glad that I’ll be present for it.

Do you set goals for the new year? Why or why not?

At the beginning of the year I set a single goal to work hard at building sustainable routines that would benefit my family and me in our everyday life. I did pretty well for a while there. For a while there I was waking at 5am each day to stay true to my planned routine.

But of course, as life often does, things changed. I knew that my routines I had built up around my previous job would fall apart, but I didn’t know to what extent. Here’s what happened: I got a new job in July in the next county that I commute to daily. Then Clara started preschool, and Corey started getting into the more demanding semesters of his college education

Over the last several couple of months we’ve all been adjusting to new wake up times, new schedules, new eating habits (aka I’m eating out all the time because I never make time to fix a lunch), and figuring out how to balance work, family, school, and social lives.

But in the last few weeks since Clara has started school, I’ve been working hard at figuring out a new routine that works well with our schedules and doesn’t wreak havoc on our family. So here’s my Sunday Accountability post:

Sunday Chores

• Mopped the kitchen floors
• Meal planned
• Washed school clothes
• Made lunches for Monday

Meal plan for this week:

• Monday: Pesto Chicken (Hello Fresh)
• Tuesday: Apricot Chicken (Hello Fresh)
• Wednesday: Meatloaf and Potatoes
• Thursday: Spaghetti & Meatballs
• Friday: Chicken Taquitos
• Saturday: Leftovers
• Sunday: Pork Chops & Rice

My intentions for this week:

• Stay focused at work
• Be present at home
• Drink water

I’m sure I’ll share more as time goes by about how I’m getting my act together, but for right now, I just need this out in the ether.

Here’s the thing…I thought for sure that there was no way a meal delivery kit was going to be worth the money. I looked at all kinds of different ones and I figured that I was too picky to make it worth it. I’d skip every week. I also thought that it would be too expensive, surely more expensive than the weeks work of groceries.

Ya’ll I was wrong. So. So. Wrong.

For Christmas my in-laws got us a $60 gift card to Home Chef. It took a little while for me to get it all set up. I looked at a few different weeks of menus every now and then, but for some reason I was struggling to pull the trigger.

Eventually I just decided to go for it. I sat down, figured out how many meals our $60 would pay for with the 2 servings option selected and a few days later a box of food was at our doorstep. I didn’t have to go to the store, I didn’t have to buy a giant bottle of balsamic vinegar for one meal, and I didn’t have to go to the grocery store. All I had to do was open up my little bag and follow the instructions.

I eventually chose to try another meal delivery kit from HelloFresh. So far we have liked every meal we’ve made from both delivery services and not one of them has been difficult to make. We do skip weeks where nothing looks super good to us, and there are somethings that aren’t our favorite about the meals BUT I just keep buying the stuff to make some of these meals because they’re that good.

Another thing that the meal delivery kits have helped me with is my cooking skills. My husband will agree, that basically everything I make tastes better now. I almost never roasted anything before these things. In fact, I never even made fresh veggies with our meals because I couldn’t figure out how to make them taste really good. Meal delivery kits fixed that! I now cook a veggie with every meal.

Last but not least…pricing. So basically it costs around $60 a week for 3 meals at 2 servings. Sometimes we have a little leftover but most of the time we eat everything in that meal. While that isn’t the cheapest out there, I didn’t have to go to the store, I didn’t have to buy any ingredients I would only use once or twice, and I got some valuable time back. I can’t even tell you how important time is for me these days! To us, it has been worth every penny! And we also don’t get meals delivered every week so that saves us too.

Overall, if you haven’t tried a meal delivery kit I would highly recommend giving it a shot. This would be especially helpful for the following people:

• Smaller families feeding 4 teens/adults or less (if you have little kids, they often can split a serving)
• Empty nesters who don’t need a fully stocked pantry at all times
• People who want to explore new foods but don’t know where to start
• Those just learning how to cook or who are not super comfortable in the kitchen

After writing about lessons that I learned in 2018, I figured I ought to mull over 2019 a bit. I’ve always liked setting resolutions and I would say that I’ve achieved a lot of goals over the years that I set as part of something that I resolved to do in January. Last year I wrote a pretty detailed post about goal setting and how you set goals that set you up for success. Man…January 2018 Katie was smart. That’s some good stuff.

In 2018’s I came up with a word that I used as a theme. “Consistency” and I built a few goals surrounding that one theme. If I were to give myself a letter grade for how I did on those goals I would probably give myself a D-. Not quite failing, but may as well have.

I want 2019 to be different. 2018 was busy. I would even say it was way too busy. If I had actually achieved all the goals I set for 2018 I would be amazed because I’m not sure I even had time to breathe the whole year…After evaluating how things wen in 2018 and thinking about what I want to change I have chosen my main focus for the new year.

Our whole lives revolve around routines, and if you’re super disorganized like me…your life revolves around your lack or routines. Every morning I’m scrambling to get dressed, get Clara ready, get lunch packed, and get out the door. Every evening I’m scrambling to get home and get dinner cooked then not cleaning it up because I’m exhausted. Then at work I’m drowning because my email keeps distracting me. Then when it’s time to work out, or clean or, read…there’s just no time because of the chaos that hangs over me like a time management nightmarish cloud.

So here we go. Wish me luck in building routines in 2019.

Most years I sit down on December 31st and reflect on the year in my rearview mirror. I usually think about all the things I wish I could have changed or how this or that or the other thing just didn’t go my way. And while there are a few of those things, they’re mostly disguised as life lessons I’ve learned. Without further ado…

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1. I am not a wedding planner. Not only am I not a wedding planner, I am the furthest thing from one that you have ever seen. While I’m very excited to marry the love of my life. the fact that my wedding is currently in 20 days is giving me so much anxiety I just have to not think about it. God forbid I ever get married again, it will be in a courthouse.
2. Being a mom is more fun than I ever imagined Don’t get me wrong here…I was never like man, being a mom sure stinks…but the beginning is really tough. It feels like so much work because it is. However as Clara has gotten older and learned to be a little (read wayyy) more independent, we have so much fun together. She has so much personality and is basically fearless. I love being her mom so much.
3. If your job sucks find a new one. This should be obvious right? It isn’t. It’s hard to just up and leave a job after you’ve been there for a while. Especially when you feel like you’ve done pretty well thus far and you don’t want to make any waves that could hurt that. Well I’m here to tell you, if you hate your job, find a new one. It’s not worth dreading going to work every day. You spend more time at work than you do anywhere else. Don’t stay miserable. Update your resume, fight for a new position or a raise, seek new opportunities. Don’t lay there stagnant because you think it’s your only option. News flash: It’s not.
4. Just because it’s good for you, doesn’t mean it’s good for me. I read about this concept in Amy Poehler’s book Yes Please but it didn’t really sink in for me until this year. Basically Amy looks at what another person is doing or some advice that some gave her and evaluates if it’s a good fit for her. If it isn’t a good fit, she used the phrase “good for you, not for me”. And it’s so true. I’ve never heard a truer thing as a parent, an almost-wife, a daughter, a sister and basically every role I play in life. We are all so different. Our personalities are different and what works for you may not work for me and that is okay. 
5. Missing out isn’t all that bad sometimes. Have you heard of FOMO (Fear of missing out)? It can be so real. You want to say yes to every invitation because you don’t want to be the blitz. You would have to be saying “Ah man!” as everyone explains the epic moments of the event you skipped. But listen…It’s going to be okay. If you miss out on one night out or one party or one trip out to lunch to finish up a big project at work, or maybe you decide to skip an even or a class or whatever it is because your plate is a little full. It’s going to be okay. Its true, you could miss out on something fun, but if it’s better for you, your family, your mental health to sit this one out, then do it. I promise you, the world will not end.
6. Personality types matter. I learned this from Rachel Hollis. While I have done several personality tests, I’d never really put a lot of stock in them. That was until I took the Enneagram Test . If you’ve never taken this test (or any personality test) I highly recommend you take it and DON’T read the possible outcomes. It will help you to answer more honestly and avoid any skewing of the results. I’ve found that is I desire to be one personality type over another my results might not match my true personality. Be honest and take a test. The reason I like the Enneagram test is because it shares about how you deal with others as well as how you deal with yourself. It really helped me get to know who I am as a person and why I am the way I am.
7. Moving sucks. My mom, my sister, and I all bought new houses and moved in the summer and fall of 2018. Each transaction was stressful. Boxing everything and moving it was labor intensive. It was also very emotionally exhausting. My parents moved out of my childhood home which was also my mom’s childhood home. As much as we love the new place it’s tough knowing the place I became who I am is getting torn down to make room for a highway.
8. Taking on more than you can handle doesn’t make you a superstar it makes you a stressed mess. I tried to work full time, run my household, be a parent and a partner, buy a house, help my mom move, take 3 college courses, and start a business. Oh, and “plan” a wedding. All this has done for me is make my life so hard. I put so much pressure on myself it was nearly impossible to feel successful. In the end things have worked out okay but it was really hard. I am doing things much differently this year because of this lesson I had to learn the hard way in classic Katie fashion.
9. Podcasts are life. I have learned more from Podcasts than basically any other medium in my life. I can’t even believe I didn’t know Podcasts existed before 2017. Okay so I did know that they existed, but I did not understand what kind of amazing content they might contain. I have learned so much, had my perspective changed on so many things, and have also been very entertained over the last year of Podcast listening.
10. I am a bad housekeeper. Just kidding. I always knew that. This is definitely NOT something new to me.
11. Baking isn’t actually that hard. I always thought I wasn’t a good baker and that I shouldn’t bake because I didn’t know all the tricks. As it happens, you actually have to bake to learn the tricks. Over the last year, and even more in the last few months I’ve been baking a ton and things tend to turn out okay.
12. A Brazilian wax will never not hurt. I’m not going to explain this…
13. I’m not my 18 year old self. I have been in denial for a while now…thinking that I’m really just my 18 year old self. That I can eat whatever I want and stay up all night and everything will be fine. No. I’m wrong. I can’t. I’m 25, almost 26 and I cannot in fact do those things anymore without consequence.
14. Amazon Echos are actually really cool. When these things first came out I was like…”Are you serious? This is a real thing? Why on earth does any person need a little speaker that adds to your grocery list?” And then I got one. I use it literally every day. I even have a dot that has replaced my alarm clock. I love it and I take back everything bad I ever said about them.
15. Meditation actually does not suck. When I meditated for the first time I didn’t get it. I thought it was dumb. It did nothing for me. But then I started doing it and wouldn’t you know, it doesn’t suck. It actually helps a whole lot.
16. Personal finance is no joke. I decided to go back to school, as mentioned before, and personal finance is a part of my degree…It’s tough for me! It’s especially hard because it has been quite some time since I’ve taken a math class, but it’s crazy how important it is, and how little people (myself included) know about it.
17. An empty sink is overrated.
18. Sometimes people let you down and that doesn’t say anything about you, but it says a whole lot about them.

The other night I watched the movie To All the Boys I’ve Loved Before on Netflix.  There has been a lot of talk about it since it’s big debut and I felt compelled to talk about it. 

1// How awesome is it that we are seeing an Asian-American lead in a movie that isn’t at all about race?  In fact, I’m pretty sure that race is only mentioned once and it’s about Sixteen Candles.

2// Man how cute? So romantic! I wish my life was like that in high school!  How lucky that there are so many people with YA Fiction Novel Lives. 

The first one is 100% awesome.  The second one…is the biggest lie in the universe.  Yes, the movie was adorable. Cutest one I’ve seen in so long, and I got the warmest fuzziest feeling watching how it ended. 

BUT THAT IS NOT REAL LIFE.  We read books and watch movies to escape our real lives, not to watch them play out on screen. If you watched my life in a movie it would be the most boring and probably painfully pathetic movie you’ve ever watched.  If it went up to present time there’d be some good stuff, but DEFINITELY not high school.  

No one wrote a contract in highschool for a fake relationship and fell in love, got married, and lived happily ever after. I’m just here to tell you, that isn’t real life. 

If someone had written a book or made a movie about what my young adult life was like it would go like this.

Opening credits would probably be me and my mom painting my bedroom an awful shade of orange and green that I deeply loved.  It would show the actors and the producers and while we painted over the lens with our rollers and my mom wearing her painting overalls. 

You’d see a lot of montage shots of me walking the halls with my ear buds in so I didn’t have to pay attention to the fact that most of the friends I had were either my sister’s friends or my ex-boyfriends friends who I didn’t really talk to.

PS I did have a couple of very genuine friends in high school that I still dearly love. We don’t talk much now, but I know they’re always around for the big stuff. 

There would probably be even more shots of me driving to my grandma’s house every day for lunch because I didn’t want to deal with not having friends to sit with.  

You’d see that I only attended dances where I asked the boys because they didn’t ask me.  There would be a few moments where I tagged along with my friend’s friends, maybe some nice notes exchanged between me and some boy…And you’d see me failing classes and not doing my homework because I was bored and struggled to focus.

During my senior year you’d see me driving to school in my beat up old Maverick that I loved to death and would still have if I had a place to keep it. You’d see me on the drill team with a bunch of girls who were probably teasing me most of the time and I just went with it…laughed with them per se. And you’d see me getting dumped.  You’d see me pining after boys I’d never date.  Probably wouldn’t even talk to.  You’d see me being jealous of my much prettier and much smarter friends (all three of them).  

You’d see me barely graduating, joining the military, getting engaged, getting dumped. 

That is real life. For a LOT of people.

As much as I like a cute story, sometimes I wish that adolescence was portrayed like it actually is for most of us:  Awful.